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Actionable
Takeaways

Ask the Three-Part "Bad Day" Question to Assess Self-Awareness:

Frida catches senior candidates off guard by asking: "what are you like when you're having a bad day? How would I notice that you're having a bad day? And then how would you like me to support you through that day?" This reveals whether executives have genuine self-awareness and whether they'll create psychologically safe environments for their own teams. Candidates who struggle to answer often signal discomfort with vulnerability, even though Frida believes everyone has days when they're "a three or a two" rather than "a 10."

Build Reciprocal Relationships With Recruiters Before You Need Them:

Rather than treating recruiters transactionally, Frida has built ongoing collaboration with her stable of trusted recruiters. They bring her candidates for input on their active searches, and she sends them strong people when she can't hire them herself. As she explains: "if I'm being approached with, you know, are you available for this CMO role, and I say, no, I'm not in the market, but give me the brief and I'll see if I have someone. And I always try to send over one or two or three names." When she needs to hire, intelligence and introductions flow both ways without fees.

Evaluate Marketers by the Questions They Ask, Not Just Their Answers:

To assess whether marketers truly understand growth, Frida listens carefully during interviews for questions about sales objections, pipeline coverage ratios, and revenue targets versus MQLs and brand impressions. This reveals whether candidates grasp that marketing's purpose is to grow the company. Her sales background shapes this view: "Sales and marketing are sales and the purpose is to grow the company."

Build Lean Teams of Domain Experts Rather Than Large Departments:

Frida has watched marketing teams compress from 30-40 person departments to lean structures of domain experts over the past decade. This shift started with the end of growth-at-all-costs economics and accelerated with AI. Lean teams enable faster decision-making without silos or production-line bottlenecks, allowing everyone to sit in one room and make quick decisions together.

Invest in Your Network Through Consistent Giving:

Frida built her LinkedIn network by consistently sharing business failures, startup challenges, and transparent personal stories. When she needs to hire, candidates are close by. But she's direct about the investment required: "I've done the work and I've nurtured the network and the context and the relationships and that's why it's easy when I do look for someone, but it hasn't come for free."

Conversation
Highlights

In this episode of Whispered Hiring, Andy Mowat speaks with Frida Ahrenby, three-time CMO at companies including Rillion, GetAccept, and Bambora, who built her foundation in sales before transitioning to marketing leadership. Frida reveals why the economics of scaleup marketing have fundamentally shifted in the past five years, forcing a move from 30-40 person departments to expert-driven teams of domain specialists. Her tactical approach to network cultivation and hiring for psychological safety offers a blueprint for building lean, high-performing marketing organizations in the AI era.

Topics discussed:

  • Why marketing teams have compressed from 30-40 people to lean structures of domain experts, driven first by the end of growth-at-all-costs economics, then accelerated by AI. This enables teams to make decisions together in one room without silos or production-line bottlenecks.
  • The give-and-take system for building trusted recruiter relationships: they bring Frida candidates for feedback on their searches, she sends them strong candidates she can’t hire, creating mutual value that makes sourcing effortless when she needs to fill a role (without paying fees).
  • How Frida built a LinkedIn network that makes hiring feel “easy” by consistently sharing business failures and transparent personal stories. She emphasizes “it hasn’t come for free” and requires ongoing investment in giving mentorship and honest content to nurture connections.
  • The three-part “bad day” question that catches senior candidates off guard: “What are you like when you’re having a bad day? How would I notice that you’re having a bad day? How would you like me to support you through that day?” This surfaces self-awareness while signaling that psychological safety exists even at C-level.
  • Why Frida provides psychological safety at the C-level despite market expectations that executives should handle bad days independently. Honest acknowledgment of being “a three or a two” on difficult days rather than demanding everyone be “a ten” creates healthier cultures.
  • How to evaluate whether marketers understand growth by listening for specific questions during interviews: Do they ask about sales objections, pipeline coverage ratios, and revenue targets? Or do they focus on MQLs and brand impressions? This reveals whether they grasp that sales and marketing share the same purpose: to grow the company.
  • The peer team exchange tactic: organizing bimonthly meetings where her entire marketing team and a peer CMO’s team alternated presenting deep-dive playbooks on ABM, rebranding, and other functional areas, building cross-company relationships while accelerating learning.
  • How to proactively source candidates by identifying companies on parallel journeys. Since Rillion is betting on US expansion, Frida researches marketing teams at other companies making similar bets, then reaches out to people she doesn’t yet know rather than waiting for posted roles.

ABOUT YOUR HOST: 

Andy Mowat has built GTM engines for top companies throughout his career. He led Revenue Operations and Demand Gen at four unicorns, including scaling from $10M to $100M ARR at both Upwork and Culture Amp, and helping guide Box and Carta through IPO scale. With a passion for connecting people, Andy has advised executives on their careers for years and launched Whispered to make searching for executive roles less intimidating. 

Learn more about about Whispered: www.whispered.com

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